UNLEARNING RIGIDITY: A JOURNEY TOWARDS GROWTH AND SELF-AWARENESS

June 2, 2025

When my counselor, Mr. Mack, described me as a person with a rigid personality, I pushed back hard. However, having those around me confirm it was a huge eye-opener. Over the next few weeks, I had to come to terms with this discovery about myself. It was something I was eager to discuss with my counselor.

After reading about some of the characteristic traits of a rigid person, I found that coping with this was not easy. I will admit it was not something I wanted to accept. But surely, if those around me were confirming it, there had to be some truth to it.

So, how did I manage to cope? By being self-aware and accepting it.

I reflected on past behaviors, thinking about times when I was inflexible and unwilling to explore new ideas or perspectives. Being open to feedback was also important. Since I was ready to make a change, I had to accept harsh realities. I couldn’t only seek out positive feedback. This feedback included hearing about times when I was inflexible and appeared rigid. I asked for detailed examples.

During this time, I gained a deeper understanding of those situations. I had people around me willing to discuss their points of view in-depth, as well as mine. It was a learning process necessary for my growth. It taught me that not every situation is right or wrong. Sometimes, it’s just about everyone being heard and appreciated. I learned that I was unintentionally making those around me feel invaluable with my rigid personality, which further my need for change.

An important during this time was when I sought help from a friend. Committed to change and aware that I wouldn’t see my counselor for a couple of weeks, I turned to someone I could rely on. She played a huge role in guiding me along this new path, she pointed out instances of inflexibility without passing judgment on them. Her support Showed the How important a strong support system in personal growth. This experience taught me that real growth begins when we’re willing to hear what’s hard to accept……and act on it.